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I will be writing about my thoughts, experiences and I will give you   tips  in all areas of life.

Sometimes I will rant a bit!

Have a read you'll never know...

All the best

Ing

 

By Ingrid Johns, Jul 29 2019 05:13PM

Hi lovely people I tend not to write much in my blog although sometimes one want to.

I'm not your usual coach who claims to have it all resolved, far from it I think coming in to this journey open up Pandora's box.

I also think that everyone has their own issues/traumas and life experiences and it is unfair to proclaim that you have it sort it. And besides if you have it all sort it, you just stalled and not given yourself room to learn and grow.

The good thing is that I do have the tools on how to tackle things and new emotions that are confronting me.

I believe that the best way to get a clear picture of what you are dealing with is breaking in up in small bits and try to find solutions to those bits that way you can start to understand why they are there.

Every challenge is a jigsaw puzzle every bit fits perfectly to another specific bit forming a wonderful picture which make sense.



By Ingrid Johns, May 18 2019 03:25PM

The equation Love yourself = Love others. Simply because without you it cannot be a them.

Loving oneself shows you how good you are to the rest of the world and how better they are for your mere existence , that feeling of putting you as the protagonist terrify us.

Yes you could argue that you love those who are close to you but don't care a bit for you.

Sorry that is a lie, you can be a machine who gives what is necessary or requested , that is not love, that is just doing something for someone else in order for them to acknowledge your kind self.( we all crave recognition).

We are creatures of habit so it is very difficult to pin point when we do things from inertia or if we are connecting with what we are feeling.

When we love it is intense and we are scared to show intensity in everything so we rained down giving way to the monotonous safe place. Which in time becomes so boring and flat that any ideas, creativity , ambitions, projects, dreams are so suppressed that the existence of loving goes away even the yearning for it becomes a distant memory.

We need to stop glamorizing the average safe place and take a leap in to do things with passion... I mean put importance in what we do and by doing so you will realise that you have started loving you .Hence loving others is a pleasure and not another thing you do.


Love

Ing





By Ingrid Johns, May 16 2019 11:45AM


I have been able to recover from Bulimia and Anorexia combined. ( yeah you can have both together)

I just wanted to talk about the treatment that help me. I will not go in to detail about my illness itself I'm only giving you a quick overview about what I did to tackled it.

First you need to understand this pathological illness is about your emotional peception of yourself and not only about the food.

Yeah nutrition plays a part but it isn't as imperative as many make you believe it is.

I started my path to recovery when I was about 13 ish ,so it wasn't alway willing or complient , it wasn't easy either.

The treatment which I attended consisted in having to spend the whole day, Monday to Friday 9 to 5 in a sort of club house with people who are dealing with similar issues (everybody is different).

You have 3 Doctors who specialized in recovery of eating disorders.

A typical day would be to arrive have breakfast with the group.

And yeah this breakfast would be from the specific diet that was assigned to you after a physical and psychological check up.

Then you'll do an activity ( compulsory) but you learn how to create something. I did not see it as a positive at the beginning but perseverance and patience was the lesson, I was a teenager nothing motivated me.

Then at around 11:00 we would have a snack and then would be the time to gather and talk about how you feeling while helpings your recovery pals.

The levels of recovery in the group would vary from new people to the ones that were about to graduate so to speak. The treatment would be a 4 year average. We were also a good mixture of backgrounds.

I think this self help group talks were the ones which make me the person I'm today... You are heard and you listen without judgments... your darkest thoughts and feelings will surface and there would be always someone who identifies with you and is willing to give you advice in how to change those thoughts or habits and replaced them with better ones.

Once this assembly finished we would have lunch. It is important to mention that everyone was cleaning their own crockery after every meal(building up discipline).

As lunch would be considered a difficult time, assembly would be conducted after it.

With Bulimia and anorexia Food (amongst other things) is the addiction so Food would trigger things within ourselves.

After the second assembly it comes the other snack, we would do another activity mainly crafts. Tea and then home.


As Homework we needed to list on a diary what we have eaten during the day.


Points that I did not mention are: you weren't able to choose or serve your own food.

You cannot flush the toilet after you have gonenither talk about food during the day except at the assemblies .

As you get better, you would start taking more control about things mentioned above and going to the treatment would become more of a visit .

This is a very brief recap of what I have done for my recovery.

It was a way to realise that I wasn't alone and people need me for what I was and not for my packaging. It taught me how to let go and pick up the pieces in an orderly manner and then take control whether be my feelings or the food I was eating.

The most important thing is that I started loving myself and helped others do the same.

Sometimes it is so scary seeing all of these fads and missinterpretation of the illness that would worsened the horrible pain you have when you are suffering from this.

I believe that in order to recover from Bulimia and anorexia you need to do it in a social environment as some of the symptoms are isolation and secrecy. This is not an illness or an addiction that can be sorted with a diet. Or by yourself even if you are willing to get better.


Please notice these are my thoughts and my experiences. Nothing is written on stone. and it's not my intention to ofend anyone.


Open for questions.


Love Ing



By Ingrid Johns, May 14 2019 06:49PM

Hola!


Did you know that walking even if it is for 5 minutesit help us think more clearly . Give it a try!

Today I had the privilege to walk around Tooting Common, it was so nice I felt the breeze on my face and I enjoyed the music from the beautiful tree leaves.

It is great when nature give you these moments is like letting you know that you are ok and life can sometimes give lemons but also gives you positive energy and a cable to earth.

Do not dismiss this gifts, just treasure them!

Love

Ing



By Ingrid Johns, May 13 2019 02:00PM

It is Monday and most people unlike me hate it.

I keep my motivation up by doing 3 things a day which were planed ahead(either the day before or when I wake up) and I know that they would deffenetly be done because either they need to or they are part of my daily routine.

When I tick those three things, it means that something was achieved and we are now ready to either set other things to do or be happy with what you have done.


Some of these thing could be...


Getting up from bed.

Take the dog for a walk.

Go to the grocery store.

Say good morning to a love one.

Pay a bill

Post something(nice) inyour media

Go to work

Do some exercice

Cook something

Get the kids from school


The list is endless, the trick is in reconigsing you are doing these things and don't dismiss them as something that is obvious and in autopilot mode. rather to see them as little chalanges that you overcome

everyday.

The sense of achivement will give you a little boost of good energy.


Love

Ing

(sorry for typos)

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